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candidlyautistic:

Just a reminder that temper tantrums are goal oriented; once a person achieve their goal or finally believes their goal is unobtainable, the tantrum ends (often with little to no deescalation; it just stops).

In contrast, an autistic meltdown is not goal oriented. It is the result of sensory-emotional overload. It is a fight/flight/flee response rooted instinct, not a conscious desire to reach a goal. Meltdowns typically end when the autistic regains sensory-emotional control, and deescalation of a meltdown is typically a long process.

TL;DR:
Temper tantrums are goal oriented and targeted.
Meltdowns just friggin’ happen because meltdowns.

posted on Sep 29th '19 with 5,944 notes  •  via  •  source
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  14. candidlyautistic said: @gstone97 something like that is wrong, and most people know it, although they don’t usually realize it is an adult having an inappropriate temper tantrum in most cases (I won’t say all, because there are probably exceptions, but I won’t make excuses for racism regardless of the cause)
  15. candidlyautistic said: @gstone97 for example, you can find videos of white adults having all kinds of temper tantrums after they do something overtly and clearly racist, like how they turn on the tears and become hysterical as soon as cop show up after an altercation with a black person. It is goal oriented (get the black person in trouble / avoid getting in trouble) and it is an emotional outburst designed to achieve that goal, so I would call it a temper tantrum.
  16. candidlyautistic said: @gstone97 That is not an easy yes or no answer. I personally do not consider them right or wrong. They are usually a part of expected developmental progression as a child ages. Sometimes a diagnosis can push that age into adulthood, and some people may never develop the tools to avoid them. That said, some adults do have temper tantrums past when they absolutely know better, and some people wield them as weapons.
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