pirategf:

coldwinecoldshoulder:

pirategf:

always shocked that people are like “aah i have no one who wants to see this movie with me so i guess i’m not seeing it :/” like may i change your life with 3 simple steps: 1. go to the cinema 2. buy a ticket 3. see the movie

Always shocked when people haven’t heard of anxiety. Two simple steps, assume everyone hates you and assume everyone is judging you.

i have a very bad general anxiety disorder and i am a shy person on top of it. when i was a teenager social situations used to stress me out a lot more than they do now though, and i have to say that doing things alone is a great part of what continues to help me realize that no one gives a fuck about what i do and that even if they do, so what? 

and going to the cinema alone is the easiest way to challenge the social kind of anxiety in my opinion. because 1. minimum social interactions, 2. you’re completely in the dark and no one can see you for a great part of the whole thing, 3. hopefully the movie is good and you’re distracted and having a good time. you just have to go there, buy a ticket (which you can often do on a machine anyway) and then the only person you have to talk to is the person who checks your ticket, and all you have to do is smile and say hello and thank you. you might feel a bit embarrassed at first while waiting for the movie to start but idk, i just do shit on my phone and before i know it the lights are going off. & by the 3rd time i went to the cinema alone i just didn’t care anymore because i had noticed that there’s a lot more people who are also there alone than i thought and also no one had ever pointed me out and yelled “this person is here alone!” or even looked at me weirdly, so. 

now i actually feel much less anxious when i do stuff alone because nothing is expected of me. if i’m stressed and want to leave i can because there’s no one i owe an explanation to (not that this has happened, but it’s a freeing thought.)

we all hate hearing it but unfortunately the mental health professionals are right and you do have to challenge your anxiety. i’m not saying that to tell you personally that you should go to the cinema alone, but please just don’t assume that i don’t know what anxiety feels like. this post was just about people who are sad they can’t see a movie because their friends don’t care about it and think it’s not socially acceptable to go to the cinema by yourself and therefore just don’t see the thing they were so excited about.