kipplekipple:

punkfaery:

i don’t know why this even needs saying, but poly relationships aren’t for everyone. “love triangles” that happen in real life can’t always be solved by a threesome. your partner cheating on you (or vice versa) is not a result of “toxic monogamy culture”. an unhealthy relationship won’t be made healthy by introducing another person. if you haven’t told your partner that you’re poly prior to entering the relationship, they have every right to be upset if you suddenly want to date or sleep with people who aren’t them. monogamy is not inherently bad or restrictive. and polyamory is not inherently freeing. 

And also, from my years of experience, you can still cheat in polyamorous relationships. It might look different, but cheating means breaking specific boundaries in your relationship, and those boundaries differ from relationship to relationship. Being polyamorous doesn’t mean having no boundaries.